Very interesting brain study on men & women & their orgasms.
“The scans show that during sexual activity, the parts of the female brain responsible for processing fear, anxiety and emotion start to relax and reduce in activity. This reaches a peak at orgasm, when the female brain’s emotion centres are effectively closed down to produce an almost trance-like state.”
This explains why many women have difficulty reaching orgasm – because we as a gender get too caught up with what is going on. Our body cannot seperate physical stimulation from the environment/atmosphere – let alone our thoughts, fears, emotions and anxieties. Just like Dr Holstege said; letting go of these feelings and emotions and living in the moment can be the key to achieving orgasm. So who gives a shit about that pile of unfolded laundry on the bed – have sex on it! Now you have an excuse to wash it again and put off folding it for another few days. 😉
“The male brain was harder to study during orgasm, because of its shorter duration in men, but the scans nonetheless revealed important differences. Emotion centres were deactivated, though apparently less intensely than in women, and men also appear to concentrate more on the sensations transmitted from the genitals to the brain.”
This explains why men generally are able to have more ‘emotionally detached’ sex with various partners and not feel the need for any commitment. Its literally how their brains work. Its strictly almost physical.
“This suggests that for men, the physical aspects of sex play a much more significant part in arousal than they do for women, for whom ambience, mood and relaxation are at least as important.”
Tip Of The Day: Go into every sexual encounter with NO EXPECTATIONS. If you don’t have expectations – there is no pressure to perform. You can have good (if not great) sex without orgasm. Its about the experience not necessarily the end result. You’ll be surprised how much fun you’ll have when you stop worrying.